I lost my home. I lost my savings. But I didn’t lose myself. This is what surviving looks like. There are things we don’t talk about after divorce. Not because we’re ashamed — though, for a while, I was. But because the scale of it feels unfathomable. And because when you’re a woman who stayed […]
Author: The Clued Up Person
7 Red Flag Warning Signs You Can’t Ignore — How to Protect Yourself
Red flag warning signs are the subtle tactics manipulators use to isolate you, control your money, or rewrite your reality. In this post, discover the 7 most common warning signs and how to protect yourself. You think you’ve done the work.You’ve left the chaos. You’ve cried the tears.You’ve read the books, gone to therapy, spoken […]
When It Happens Again
If you’re reading this because you’re living in something that feels off — something that’s hurting you but you can’t quite name — you’re not alone. I’ve lived it too. I’m still crawling my way through the aftermath of a trauma bond after abuse, trying to figure out how it even happened again. Trauma Doesn’t […]
From Rock Bottom to Clued Up
Was I Clueless? They called me clueless. And for a while, I believed them. When you’re knee-deep in court papers, CMS letters, rogue solicitor drama, and trying to keep your kids’ lives afloat — it’s easy to feel like maybe they’re right. But they weren’t. They were wrong. And the moment I stopped swallowing those […]
From Rock Bottom to Clued Up
Why I Started This They say rock bottom will teach you lessons that mountaintops never will. I didn’t just hit rock bottom — I unpacked and lived there for a while. The Clued Up Club wasn’t born from strategy sessions or business plans. It came from survival mode — post-divorce, emotionally wrecked, financially drained, caught […]