From Rock Bottom to Clued Up

Why I Started This

They say rock bottom will teach you lessons that mountaintops never will. I didn’t just hit rock bottom — I unpacked and lived there for a while.

The Clued Up Club wasn’t born from strategy sessions or business plans. It came from survival mode — post-divorce, emotionally wrecked, financially drained, caught in the thick fog of family court, CMS chaos, and solo parenting. It came from years of battling a system that felt cold and unjust. It came from being dismissed, underestimated, and, at times, downright ignored.

This isn’t just a blog — it’s a lifeline, a rebellion, and a real talk space rolled into one.

When You’re on Your Knees

There were days I felt like I was drowning in paperwork, legal jargon, and silence from the very people meant to help. Days when I didn’t know how I’d get through the week — or pay the school fees. Nights spent staring at spreadsheets, court dates, unread emails, and a bank account that told a story no one else saw.

All while trying to keep life feeling “normal” for my boys.

I didn’t have a backup plan, a wealthy family, or a safety net. I had grit, three children watching me, and an inner voice that refused to stay quiet any longer.

Why I’m Sharing This Now

Because no one prepared me for how lonely, broken, and misunderstood life after a toxic relationship can feel.

No one gave me the roadmap for rebuilding a life from scratch — emotionally, financially, practically. And certainly no one told me that years later, I’d still be navigating CMS battles and winning a tribunal against the Secretary of State after three relentless years of evidence, hearings, and stonewalling.

But I won. Not just legally — spiritually, emotionally, mentally.

And now, I want to make sure you don’t have to walk this path alone.

What You’ll Find Here

This blog isn’t about “perfectly curated” healing. It’s not about finding yourself on a yoga retreat in Bali. It’s about real-life resilience. The messy, beautiful, uncomfortable truth of rebuilding a life on your own terms.

We’ll talk about boundaries, burnout, co-parenting, money, healing, court, CMS, recovery, confidence, growth, mindset, mistakes, and milestones.

If you’re trying to find your way through it — or make sense of the wreckage you’re climbing out of — you’re in the right place.

You’re Not Clueless

You were never clueless — you just weren’t given the whole story. And now, you’re getting clued up. Step by step. On your terms. In your time.

I’ll be here every week, sharing what I’ve learned — the stuff I wish someone had handed me when I was in the thick of it. And if it helps you take one more clued-up step forward, then it’s worth every word.

Welcome to the blog. I’m so glad you’re here.